Parenting by Grandparents

 It is a belief among young parents that if they leave their child with the grandparents (either side) even once in a while, their efforts invested in setting up a routine will go in vain, as grandparents because of their overly pouring love for the grand child (which went missing when their own child was little), do all sorts for child pleasing activities. Being a first time mom, this issue troubled me a lot. My parents, the most strict parents me and my brother have ever known became the coolest grandparents when my daughter was born, an extra bite of chocolate, an extra hour at play, an extra dramatic console has become a new normal for them. Me and my brother, who have been raised with canes and belts, are amazed seeing my daughter asking her grandfather to provide her something in return for a small hello, and he without wasting much time, gives into her demands. This behaviour of grandparents troubles new parents a lot specially when they believe in modern parenting style, where you talk to the child without raising your voice but also don't give into the child's unnecessary demands. But, gradually as time passed by, I personally have seen positive effects of their soft and traditional parenting style, my child knows what family means, whom to consider family, how to greet elders, has faith in our faith, believes that her parents especially her mom, leaves her behind not because she is too ambitious but because she worked hard for what she has achieved and loves her the most.